The biggest critic lives in your perception of people’s perception of you (not people’s perception of you).
Marc & Angel Hack Life “10 Things To Remember When You Feel Unsure Of Yourself”
The excerpt above from Marc Chernoff’s brilliant post, reminds us that in spite of our incredible diversity, we humans are much alike.
We’re social creatures who want to be liked. It gnaws at our souls when we feel someone thinks badly of us.
These are the notions that plague me at 3 am when I can’t sleep.
“Did she think I meant…?”
“Oh no, I can’t believe I said…!”
“He must think I am stupid for saying…!”
Sound familiar? And what do we do about it?
I’ve found three remedies for the 3 am insecurity attack. They could work anytime your “perception of people’s perception” worries you.
1. Meditate or Pray
Clear your mind of all the clutter. If you practice meditation, it gets easier over time to re-boot your brain.
If it’s too hard to turn off the thoughts by yourself, you can queue up a recorded guided meditation. Let Deepak Chopra or Louise Hay escort your thoughts down a more pleasant route.
Or have a nice chat with God. Remember those nightly bedtime prayers? Turns out, that’s an awesome way to find peace.
2. Read a book
If my mind is perseverating on nonsense, often I will pick up a book and lose myself in the minutiae of the tale before me. Or if fiction can’t capture my racing mind, a good non-fiction book can pretty much always do the trick.
I like self-help, feel-good books but I have one friend who can only relax reading dry, boring (to me) war history books. Whatever works for you!
3. Write It Down
I keep a journal next to my bed. If I awaken and just can’t get back to sleep because I’m upset about nonsense, I write down my worries.
Nine times out of ten, that will do the trick. I tell myself in Scarlett O’Hara style, “I will worry about that tomorrow.”
And guess what? When tomorrow comes, I am usually amazed that I was so worked up for such a silly reason. The light of day seems to banish most fears.
One final thought… If you really can’t sleep, maybe it’s time to get up and start your day. It sure beats lying in bed, beating yourself up over inconsequential matters. 🙂
What are your ways to slay the 3 am dragons? Let us know in the comments below.